Call my old fashioned.
My father taught me that when you can’t say something nice about somebody else, shut up. Do not post it on Facebook.
When I’m having a bad day, I keep a low profile. People don’t like to watch other people mope. It’s the same for people using the loo, if you need to, don’t bother telling others. I just give myself a slap in the face as I have to get over it. If that doesn’t work I’ll talk to someone to gain some perspective. Not necessarily a shrink, for they are damn expensive and I have already used my annual limit. I’ll just find a friendly ear. I do not post it on Facebook.
I believe when two people are having a disagreement they should keep it in the ring. There is no need to invite spectators, unless you are getting paid. Maintain some discretion and act with decency. Fight clean. Resolve the matter face to face, and if you have to, go out and find a referee. Find your friendly ear. Do not post it on Facebook.
If you are in the middle of a horrible divorce or break-up and it feels like someone sliced your abdomen wide open, and all your intestines are lying splattered on the floor, peeling out and it hurts like hell and you hate everyone… Don’t lash out like the wounded animal you are. Wait. Think of your kids, your friends, your family. Think of how your actions will impact your support structure. Find a friendly ear and do not post it on Facebook.
We don’t go around standing on street corners, screaming random hateful things at people. We don’t ring a bell then shout every negative thing that pops into our head. We don’t force strangers to be part of our problems, our concerns, our battles. (And if we did, we’ll probably be removed from society, placed in a nice padded room with a warm long-sleeved jacket, and Nurse Ratchet to give you medication) If it doesn’t make sense to share our private struggles with strangers and every other person, why oh why do some people do it on social media? Facebook has a much larger public domain than any busy street corner!
How do we as a society teach our kids to be decent human beings, enable them to use social media responsibly when there are so many adults who can’t do the same? Does the rules of watch what you say and having consideration for other people’s feelings and having empathy or courtesy not apply anymore? Off course they do!
Doesn’t matter how enlightened we consider ourselves to be, there is no replacement for common decency, for using some discretion. It doesn’t matter the medium. Let’s employ some good old fashioned tact.
When you see someone struggling through the day, or battling to keep the load on their shoulders, help. Be their friendly ear. And once you have and the other person feels better, do not post it on Facebook.
And if you are having eggs for breakfast, enjoy it. Don’t post. I don’t care what you are having for breakfast, because I am having muesli.